Romancing the Wedding

Posted in Gay, lifestyle, Media in Sri Lanka, Queer Arts, Queer Literature, sexuality on November 16, 2010 by thesakhicollaboration

Bright lights glistened and a thousand and one conversations were in progress. It was a happy occasion for two of my friends on their wedding day. Everyone in their best attire seemed to be enjoying themselves with the free flowing booze and the gossip. I felt an unbelievable sense of loneliness even in the midst of a large group of my friends, their husbands, wives and fiancés, sitting around a table drinking and talking.

Uninterested in the day to day trials of their married lives, I looked around to see what else was happening in the party. My eyes scanned the occupants of the other tables stopping at a table of a group of young men who were making a kind of rumpus with loud cross talk. As my eyes ran through it’s occupants I noticed one individual to be particularly outstanding.

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This short story was written by  A. K.  for PinK ink.

 

My family photo

Posted in Family, Gay, lifestyle, Poetry, Queer Literature on November 4, 2010 by thesakhicollaboration

It was a triangle at a distance,

Of shades in brown, in beige and yellow.

Grandfather’s head at the apex.

Close to him Grandmother… un-touching and erect.

Aunts and uncles arranged neatly in pairs-

to the left and to the right, each trying to outdo the other

frilled children on laps and cross legged boys.


My head will never appear at an apex.

Always a line of coloured shirts and tee shirts.

Hands over shoulders or pressed together

One body to another, hugging in a horizontal uneven line,

smiling or scowling faces.

Altering constellations,

The face in the centre always changing…

no pairs or permanent arrangements for me.


This poem was written by Ashokamala for PinK ink.


Afternoon Affair

Posted in Gay, LGBT issues, lifestyle, Queer Literature on October 19, 2010 by thesakhicollaboration

I hear him gargling. Rinse, spit, clear his throat and, gargle again. He repeats it several times. It was always the same, every time, this purification ritual. I heard the water run in the shower. I hated this.

Was what just happened between us so dirty? Impure…unhygienic to him, that he has to go through such a lengthy cleansing process?

I, on the other hand, would long for him after he had gone… smell his scent on my pillow, on the bed sheet, in the air of this stuffy room, on my body because, at the end of the day that was all I was left with… his scent. I shifted on the bed. My body was covered in sweat; the creaky old ceiling fan didn’t provide any relief from the heat and humidity of the room. I felt my entire life was like that creaking old ceiling fan, constantly moving without really going anywhere… around and round.

Read the full story here.

This short story was written by A. K.  for PinK ink.

In what words will I speak?

Posted in Gay Sri Lanka, LGBT issues, Queer Literature on September 9, 2010 by thesakhicollaboration

In what words will I speak?… In what language will I tell you my story?

Will you listen to songs of my Love?

Will you collect in a vial my tears of heartbreak?

Will you write in bold colours the story of my secret life,

Will you shout it out proudly from the mountain tops… or will you rhyme it

softly when you are rested on your lover’s shoulder, after the dance is done?

As a queer community that lives and loves in Sri Lanka we have few examples of same-sex love or diverse gender expressions in mainstream literature or media. Our small offering of Queer literature has most often been an expression by Straight identifying writers, filmmakers, playwrights and poets.  While this does not in any way lesson the significance of the expression, the queer community, continues to be defined by other people’s words. The time has come for Us to tell our own stories!

The Sakhi Collaboration in an effort to record and celebrate Queer lives and stories would like to invite you to publish your writing on our blog and trust that these expressions would stand as a celebration of the LGBT community in our country. Poems, short stories, play scripts, screen plays, songs, or any other writing would add to the vocabulary of queer expression and help people to read and understand queer politics and lives.

Please e-mail your content to info@sakhicollaboration.com

Important:  Please note that your submissions may be subject to editing.

කොහොම කියන්නද මං…

මොන භාෂාවෙන්  කියන්නද මං..

මගේ ප්‍රේම ගීතය ඔබ අසාවිද ???

මගේ විරහවේ කඳුළු කුප්පියකට රැස් කරයිද ඔබ ???

කව්රුත් නොදන්නා මගේ ජීවිත කතාව ඔබ පාට පාටින් ලියයිද ???

කඳු මුදුනටම ගිහින් ඔබ මගේ කාතාව ලොවටම කියයිද ???

නැතිනම් ආදරවන්තයගේ උරහිසෙහි හිස හොවාගෙන මුමුනයිද ??

සාමකාමී ප්‍රජාවක් ලෙස  ජීවත් වෙමින් ආදරය කලත් මෙරටෙහි මාධ්‍ය හා සාහිත්‍ය තුල සාමකාමී ආදරය හා විවිධ වූ ස්ත්‍රී  පුරුෂ අනන්‍යතාවයන්  එලි දැක්වී ඇත්තේ අල්ප වශයෙනි.එය වුවද අල්ප සාමකාමී හා විෂම ලිංගික කළා කරුවන්ගෙන් බිහි වූ වේදිකා නාට්‍ය, චිත්‍රපටි, නවකතා කවි වශයෙනි. එයින්ද සිංහල භාෂාවෙන් එළිදැක්වෙන්නේ අල්ප වශයෙනි. ඉතින් සාමකාමී ප්‍රජාවක් ලෙස අපට දැනෙන අපේ ජීවිතේ ගැන ලියන්න කතා කරන්න අවස්ථාවයි මේ.

සකි සහයෝගීතාවයේ අපි, අපේ ලබැඳි  මිතුරන්ට ඔබේ සාමකාමී ජීවන රටාවට හා එහි දේශපාලනය පිලිබඳ  කවි, නාට්‍ය රචනා. තිර පිටපත්, ගීත හා කුමන ගණයේ කළා කෘතියක් සකි බ්ලොග් අඩවිය මගින් එලි දැක්වීමට මෙසේ ආරාධනා කරමු. එමගින් අපේ සාමකාමී ( LGBT )   ජීවිත අපට  අභිමානයෙන් යුතව සැමරිය හැකි අතර අප ජීවිත පිලිබඳ සමාජීය කතිකාවක් ඇරඹීමට මේ කදිම අවස්ථාවක් වනු ඇත.

කරුණාකර ඔබේ කෘතීන්  info@sakhicollaboration වෙත ඊ මේල් කරන්න.

සැලකිය යුතයි – ඔබගේ කෘතීන් සංස්කරණයකට ලක්විය යුතු යයි අපට හැගී ගියහොත් ඔබේ අනුදැනුම මත එය සංස්කරණයට භාජනය වනු ඇත .

A Single Man – Film review.

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on August 18, 2010 by thesakhicollaboration

Movie - A Single Man

A Single Man, directed by Tom Ford is a film of haunting beauty. Sadly Colin Firth was robbed of a Best Actor award for his performance in the piece.  Although I am very much a Jeff Bridges fan, I simply don’t buy into this whole idea where an actor or actress is given an award simply based on the acting history and the fact that they haven’t yet been recognised. It is sad when a performance of this kind is shunned for those reasons.

The movie which earns an 86% fresh score (that’s a huge score BTW) on www.rottentomatoes.com revolves around the story of a man who loses his lover in an accident. With no chance to say goodbye and no way of even paying his last respects, Colin Firth’s character must learn to live without that one person who made his life worth living. What do you do when that most important person in your life leaves you? How do you wake up every morning and make it through a day without hearing his voice, without his smile, without his scent? How do you retire to your bedroom and look at the bed which you once shared with him and think of sleeping in that same bed when you know he will never ever be there to hold you through the night. How does it all make sense? Then does it make life worth living? Do you just go through the motions? Do you cling on to hope? And when you just can’t seem to go on what can you really do?

To gay men and women battling society, religion and social stigma, the loss of a lover is a million times harder to deal with and all that pain, absurdity and hopelessness is captured delightfully in this moving tear jerker. Add to this the never disappointing performance of Julianne Moore, the meticulous attention detail of the 1960’s period style and Tom Ford’s flair and you have a movie that is easily one of the best made. At least from a gay man’s point of view.

Dinesh Perera

Bent reasoning?

Posted in Gay Rights, Gay Sri Lanka, Human Rights, Media in Sri Lanka, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on August 11, 2010 by thesakhicollaboration

In response the editorial by Ms. Champika Liyanaarachchi published in the Daily Mirror of Thursday, 29 July 2010

The Daily Mirror has been regarded by many as an unbiased and free publication. It has, in the past published adverts against homophobia and more lately, unbiased interviews with LGBT activist and lent publicity to events and celebrations of Gay Pride. Some of the more recent articles on Gay issues to be published include:

However, the editorial, which we have republished on this site , is probably the best example of homophobia to be expressed in any mainstream media in recent years.  The Sakhi Collaboration is both disappointed and shocked that the Daily Mirror should publish such an editorial and more so of the sudden change in stance.

Sakhi believes the Editorial reflects a poor display of responsible journalism or judgment, and will not take on the task responding individually to the points raised in the article as we feel the piece of writing does not merit a rational discussion for the following reasons.

‘Set[ting] the record straight’ – as the editor presumes to do, reflects the writer’s heteronormative perspective on queer issues and Sexual Rights Advocacy groups.  The reference to the sexuality of some members of the diplomatic corps is unwarranted. The statements apparently made by Gay/Queer persons uncorroborated and the accusations levelled at Sexual Rights Advocacy groups and women’s organisations baseless.

It is unfortunate that the Editor has seen it fit to reflect her own personal fears and biases in an Editorial of a reputed publication.

Sakhi, welcomes any responses to the editorial and will be pleased to publish it as comments here.

(Please note that articles will be subject to editing prior to publication.)

A tide against the natural…

THURSDAY, 29 JULY 2010 03:14

One saw this coming slowly for some years. However sudden increased activism by the groups during the last few weeks made one think that it’s high time that one set the record straight.

The story is this.

Some controversial moves are being made by groups within the Colombo social circles along with a few diplomats and leading civil society figures to create an impression that heterosexuality is an outdated, obsolete disposition. Most of these individuals one-time heterosexuals turn gays.

This certainly is not an alarmist view of a prude. Among the members of one of these groups is a high ranking officer of a diplomatic mission in Colombo. Apart from him there are quite a few not so high ranking men from the diplomatic community who are included in the group.

Try striking up a conversation with these groups and they will say that all politicians in the country should turn gay so that they can avoid the burden of a family – wife and children and better concentrate on work. A peek into the evening parties of some of these groups apparently make one wonder whether one is really living in Sri Lanka or Las Vegas. Their promotion of vices including extensive use of drugs and aggressive promotion of their ideology have slowly started hitting the foundations of Sri Lankan society especially the family unit.

Then there’s another group which is facilitated by a leading women’s NGO in Colombo which comprises of male-bashers who would go to any extend to explain that males are a dangerous species and they should be done away with. Most of the members of this group are women who were once into unhappy relationships and want to believe that the entire women population in the country has been victimized by the male population. Their wrath against men sees no bounds. The members of this group go out of the way to launch venomous attacks against the Sri Lankan male population by way of publications, exhibitions and many other means. Marriage for them is an opportunity for men to exploit women physically and psychologically as the male is always looked at with an enemy perception. Women who rally around this group are bent on spreading their pessimistic message on men among the entire women population in the country.

Over the years, slowly and steadily both these type groups have managed to rope in a few dozens of unsuspecting leading personalities in society to their clubs. The last few weeks saw some strong movements by these entities which attempt to piggy back on the political dialogue on human rights. There is no doubt that much is needed to be done on the human rights front. However, the country can do well without these undesirable elements.

Sri Lanka has successfully weathered many a cultural tides thanks to the strength of its strong social foundations. One hopes that this too will pass.

A Sakhi day out!

Posted in Uncategorized on July 22, 2010 by thesakhicollaboration

Read more about our male sexual health initiative in our official website.

A considerable number of ‘Men who have Sex with Men’ (MSM) engage in unprotected sex with both male and female partners and are often not aware of their vulnerability to Sexually Transmitted Infection(STI).

The members of the Sakhi Collaboration as a part of their Male Sexual Health initiative for MSM evaluated the HIV and STI Testing facilities of the Colombo Clinic of the National STI/AIDS Control Programme. The exercise assisted us in understanding better the possible issues that a MSM would face should he require the services at this facility.

Read the full report and evaluation of the HIV and STI Testing facilities of the Colombo Clinic of the National STI/AIDS Control Programme on our website. http://www.sakhicollaboration.com/

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